***REMINDER: Once more Lola has “graciously” agreed to participate in another DEAR LOLA effort. The theme is gay relationship issues and the twist this time is that Lola will be joined by blogger extraordinaire, Elle a.k.a. The Pirate. That’s right — twice the advice for half the price! Are you a flaming ‘mo with domestic partner issues? A rug munching lesbian who needs advice in the bedroom? Are you contemplating making your twosome a threesome but not sure what to do when you’re nude, lubed, and ready to screw? Well, fret no more — these ladies have graciously agreed to don their thinking caps and share their most thoughtful thoughts in an effort to help the LGBT community get their shit together. Send your problems to dirk.mancuso@gmail.com and be sure to include DEAR LOLA in the subject line. The deadline for questions has been extended until October 5th, 2009 with the post (or posts depending on the volume of mail) running in October as part of my celebration of Gay History Month!

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