Okay, so my mother and best friends have told me to hit the bricks because they have an issue with my being a practicing homosexual and things with The Fella are on hold (temporarily, but most likely permanently)…but I think I found a kick ass apartment.
With 2 walk in closets.
I guess the smart thing here is to consider the glass half full, right?
Right?
…Right?!?!?!?!?!
WTF??? Where in the hell did this come out of? This just breaks my heart.
You know, I can almost understand your mother but your best friends????
You just pack your bags, get your absentee voter ballot and move on up here. You can get married and have health insurance and just about every job is unionized so you get tons of days off and you don’t have to be polite to the customers and I’ll make you big margaritas and give you a hug.
However, if that’s not in the cards, you should know that not even Miss Carrie Bradshaw has two walk-in clothes. That is a fucking score, Mister.
By: Sarah on Monday, June 9, 2008
at 2:36 pm
What in the heck is going on?
By: suzy on Monday, June 9, 2008
at 2:41 pm
OK, did your mother just RECENTLY realize you’re gay? I think Lola needs a time-out (but NOT the fella!!). Good luck on that new apartment. And I’m with Sarah—pack your bags and go elsewhere!
Dirk says: …Lola is very unforgiving when she feels she’s right. And she feels that being gay is not right.
By: catrina on Monday, June 9, 2008
at 2:41 pm
Blowing the bullshit whistle–those are NOT friends in any sense of the word, let alone “best friends.” Dump ‘em NOW.
And if you’re not a practicing homosexual, how will you ever be a fantastic one? It takes WORK, honey!
By: Alex on Monday, June 9, 2008
at 3:02 pm
SMiss ome mother’s including mine will never accept the fact that their son is a fruit. Your real friends won’t leave you because your Gay, practicing or otherwise. Now, give the Fella a call, you’ll need his strong back to help you move. Two walk in closets…score! Miss Arial and her friends can use one closet and you can come out of the other one. haha. There is a silver lining around every dark cloud. Sending you a big gay hug and virtual sloppy kiss.
By: Ed on Monday, June 9, 2008
at 3:05 pm
WTF? happened in the sending of this comment? What is that shit at the first? It should have read Some mother’s, some mother’s dammit! Sorry.
By: Ed on Monday, June 9, 2008
at 3:07 pm
So Lola thinks being Gay is a choice? Who would choose to be hated and put down all of their lives? How come I always knew I was Gay even before I was old enough to know about sex? Does Lola think everything was made by God? God don’t make mistakes, honey. If God didn’t make Homos there wouldn’t be any. Lola will need you to help her as her only child. Tell her not to burn the Dirk bridge because she might need to go down that road someday. OMFG! This is the 21st century can’t we all get along? I can’t get over it, as a long time watcher of the HGTV channel: Two Mofo walk in closets in the same apartment. Does it have His and His sinks too?
By: Ed on Monday, June 9, 2008
at 4:04 pm
Uh, that’s walk in clothes closets. Closets.
You’ve got us all in such a tizzy, we can’t type right.
By: Sarah on Monday, June 9, 2008
at 4:28 pm
You’re such a tease.
What EXACTLY did your Mom and best friends say? You tend to be into subtext.
Is the break related? Why are you on a break?
You may have to change your blurb (Dirk Mancuso is a well adjusted, 41 year old gay guy).
Call me if you want to talk.
Dirk says: …the blurb is changed.
By: Dennis on Monday, June 9, 2008
at 4:47 pm
Lola needs to remember who’s going to pick out her nursing home!
WE love ya, Dirk. Big bear hug from here, too. I hope the situation with the fella is temporary; you didn’t burn any bridges, did you? (sniffs for smoke)
Oh, yeah–remember Mona’s law from Tales of the City–you can’t have a great apartment, a great job and a great fella at the same time. You’ve got the apartment and a crappy job, so don’t let the fella get away.
By: Alex on Monday, June 9, 2008
at 5:07 pm
I couldn’t help but hear the old needle across the phonograph record as I read your entry. Have you lost your mind, man??? Get the fella back and kiss your “friends” goodbye. Lola will sort this out on her own or not. HER choice.
By: Roxcy on Monday, June 9, 2008
at 6:52 pm
Hmmm. Deep in thought here as I try not to scream “WHAT?” “ON HOLD???” Nope. Not going there today.
Do you miss him?
DuShawn; what is his beef with the fella? Specifically.
Kudos on a fab apartment. Do you have enough clothes for two walk-in closets? Yet?
By: javabear on Monday, June 9, 2008
at 8:14 pm
I can’t really comment on your mom or “friends.” Right or wrong, people will think the way they want and do what they feel is necessary. Hell, you’re a perfect example. For no seemingly good reason you are sabotaging a good relationship.
You know I probably care about you more than anyone else who reads this site and so you know it is with love that I say this.
Your mother and friends are morons for treating you this way based on something so arbitrary as sexual orientation. And you are a moron for letting go of your relationship simply because you are scared and insecure.
Call if you need to, but be prepared for me to verbally kick your ass.
By: Dr. Sparky on Monday, June 9, 2008
at 8:16 pm
I’ll be your hag, Dirk…
)
I’m sorry you are encountering judgment within your own family. I believe in having an opinion but also in the grace of accepting others as they are. You, my dear, are a great guy and I don’t understand what’s going on with the fella!!! WHAHAPPEN?? please tell us. We’re confused. I hope you didn’t delete his number from your cell. Stop running on impulse and take the leap of faith.
We love you and want the well-adjusted Dirk back
)
By: Annalisa on Tuesday, June 10, 2008
at 12:54 am
My parents, like your mother, only have a problem with my sexuality when I’m practicing–or practicing in a way that they notice. People will always have differences of opinion on all matters sexual, some people still consider remarriage after a divorce equals adultery, so it shouldn’t surprise anyone that homosexuality is so controversial.
I figure there’s nothing one can do about it. Hating or turning against a friend or family member because they’re uncomfortable with my lifestyle is as bad as them hating me over the issue in the first place, so I try to take the high road and be understanding. I draw the line at going back in the closet, but do try not to rub their noses in it as much as I can, to do otherwise would just be tacky.
I also LOVE it (love it, love it, love it) that “my house, my rules” is an inviolate, so if I want things to go my way in my house, how can I object when someone else does the same, even when I don’t agree?
Enjoy your new digs, kudos on the two walk-ins, by the way. You should have to put up with European/Asian style where there are NO closets AT ALL! One has to make do with wardrobes. Great for redesigning the furniture flow, but sucky when it comes to storage space.
Not to mention creating those little mini-dungeons.
By: Bryan on Tuesday, June 10, 2008
at 4:38 am
OK–wait just a freaking minute. Mamma and freinds don’t mind if your gay–just as long as you don’t “Practice” it?????????????????????????????????????????????????????????
Christ on the cross–give me a break. Lola will get overherself, but how can your best buds be like that–for everything you do for their asses–and now because your are getting your groove on, they bail on you–WTF!!!!!!!!
Oh–and don’t mess things up with Fella–give it a chance–come on man–you deserve a little happiness–whether you think so or not.
By: Lurker Girl on Tuesday, June 10, 2008
at 6:54 am
I can’t add anymore to what’s been already said, except for this…
Unfortunately, you can’t pick your relatives. Your mother will probably change her tune when she “needs you”, so stay strong in regards to her. As for your “friends”, I am very dissapointed in them.
P.S. The apartment sound fab!
P.P.S. DON’T DROP THE FELLA!!!
By: tigeryogiji on Tuesday, June 10, 2008
at 10:34 am
This is not acceptable. The behavior Lola and the friends are chosing is simply not acceptable. They may or may not change.
Neither will you.
RUN AFTER THAT MAN.
By: Gregory on Tuesday, June 10, 2008
at 10:45 am
I’m not going to attempt to keep score on who cares about you the most, because I think such things are impossible to measure. It looks, too, like everyone else has already said what I was going to say (and have said before), so I’ll hold off on saying it again (but you know all of us are right, so there!). Just wanted you to know that I read this and that I give a shit. You have my number, too…
P.S. OK, dammit, I’ll say it: if you let The Fella go because of this, you’re WORSE than a moron. What kind of “friends” and “family” only like you when you’re lonely and available to be their lackey? Fuck ‘em if they don’t like it. Live your life and let them come around…if they don’t, it’s their tough shit, not yours.
By: Aaron on Tuesday, June 10, 2008
at 11:41 am
I’ve given up on the whole boyfriend thing with you, so I won’t comment any more.
What I WILL say is– why the fuck are two walk in closets such a big deal when you just garbage bagged and threw out 80% of what you owned??
Dirk says: …actually, I could give two shits about the walk in closets but when I told Carly she creamed her panties — twice! — so I figured it must be a good thing. And I was totally trying to find all the good stuff in this situation.
By: cb on Tuesday, June 10, 2008
at 11:45 am
—What Aaron said—before and AFTER his “PS.”
By: catrina on Tuesday, June 10, 2008
at 1:21 pm
I don’t know all the details about you and the Fella or why you and the Fella are on a break or even your entire dating history, but in “look on the bright side” mode:
May I just point out that you had a relationship which was pleasant while it lasted and does not seemed to have ended (if it actually has) with the other person treating you like shit on their shoe? Based on your posts, this does seem like a healthy improvement.
By: Lorelie on Tuesday, June 10, 2008
at 2:19 pm