Latest potential date disaster — I’ll give you the Reader’s Digest condensed version, you guys tell me what I should do.
I was chatting online…blah blah blah…47-year-old man says hi…we chat a few times…he says let’s get together and meet…I suggest a nice steakhouse (that serves chicken) and he says “how about you come over to my house instead where we can talk undisturbed?”
The second I heard that, all I could imagine was knocking on his door and being greeted by this:
And I think we all know how it feels about putting the lotion on its skin, don’t we?
So, here’s my question — should I go to this guy’s house for a drink (hold the roofie, please) and pray he’s not looking for a big ol’ queer to help make his Nancy Boy suit? Or should I just take a pass?
Normally, I’d just go — I know how you all live for the torture that is the Dirk Mancuso dating scene — but I’m kind of put off by the fact that he’s seen my profile pic but when I asked one in return all I got was a couple of cock shots. (Admittedly, a couple of totally rockin’ cock shots, but still…)
Anyway, this is where you guys come in: I need all of you to leave a comment voting “yay” or “nay” and decide my dating fate. (Lurkers, stand up and be heard!)
But hurry — I have to call him on my lunch hour Wednesday.
The polls are open now…
Nay!
By: Jason on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 7:13 am
No.
By: Zachary on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 7:19 am
nay – stand firm — neutral or nuthin
By: Barb in KS on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 7:31 am
NO!!!! Anyone who insists you come over to his place on the first meeting is too lazy to be in a relationship. (He won’t even leave his own house?? He probably smells like dirty old underwear, too.)
By: Aaron on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 7:34 am
ABORT, ABORT, ABORT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Don’t do it–sounds like a serial killer looking for his next victim!!
By: Lurker Girl on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 7:45 am
He has violated the basic rules. You must…MUST! meet in a neutral place the first time! He must be human and send you his picture of his face…HIS FACE!
I vote no…NO,NO,NO!!! Kick him to the curb until he comes back with a modicum of respect and a picture. Aaron is so right on this, he is too lazy or too cheap to go out? The Dirk I know and love deserves sooooo much more!
By: Ed on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 7:55 am
NO! Meet him in a public place the first (few) time(s). If he’s not willing to do that, he’s not willing to date you. He’s also not worthy to date you. Remember that, too, Dirk. Stand tall and proud.
By: Java on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 7:56 am
Um…..NO!
By: Steve on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 8:06 am
Danger Will Robinson, Warning – Warning, That Does Not Computer. If he’s too lazy or cheap or fugly to leave his house to meet you, then he probably doesn’t bathe daily either. Why do this to yourself? OH yeah, for something to write about next week. Nevermind…………..
By: Carl on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 8:38 am
NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO
By: catrina on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 8:49 am
i have to admit i am tempted to say yes purely from the entertainment value it’d be to read about it after. but seeing that going to meet this dude at his house is of such a risk that you might not get home to write about it all, i’ll have to say NAY, NAY, NAY! … NAY!
By: Christina on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 8:59 am
NAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Your brain went to The Silence of The Lambs file for a reason. Trust that initial reaction.
By: Sarah on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 9:11 am
Nay!
Why doesn’t he want to show you his face? Because he is a serial killer!
For real, this is what movies of the week are supposed to teach us. (do you really want to see “Do Not Disturb – the Dirk Mancuso story on Lifetime?)
The only people he doesn’t want to be disturbed by are the police – because they are looking for him.
Please Dirk, don’t go. Don’t be tempted by the cock shots. This has doom written all over it.
BTW, what website are you meeting these freaks on? eHarmony?
By: Jim on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 9:16 am
I would not worry so much about the Silence of the Lambs scenario as much as the other warning signs that pop up. It might be a closeted guy who doesn’t want to be seen out on a man date.
So, though it may be tempting, no. Tell him that you’d be more comfortable meeting in a public place like the steakhouse. See how he interacts with you in public, and then after the public meeting, if you’d like to go over to his place, you’ll be in a better place to make a decision about his motives.
By: Keith on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 9:34 am
No.
By: Gavin on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 9:56 am
No way in Hell!!!!
By: tigeryogiji on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 11:09 am
NO.
If this guy doesn’t want to meet in a neutral place, something is wrong.
By: Cameron on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 11:13 am
I say NO to meeting at his house, get him to meet you in a public place and then decide.
By: Mike on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 11:27 am
Nay! Tell him you have a personal policy that 1st dates must always be in public places. His response to this will tell you whether or not to even meet him in a public place.
Mark
By: Mark on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 12:08 pm
Gee, I feel like I’m voting on the Republican side of the PA primary. No!
By: Lemuel on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 12:36 pm
No Way! Nay! Not this Day!
By: Penny on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 12:54 pm
nuh uh, no way. My weirdo bells are ringing.
By: kw on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 12:57 pm
While I come up with potentially nicer reasons than serial-killer-ness (agoraphobia, closeted, house arrest) all are still reasons to say NO.
By: Lorelie on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 1:02 pm
Maybe.
If you wanna have sex with the guy- then go. Because he WILL want sex.
If you just want to meet– then I say Starbucks, not dinner is the thing to do. Or at a bar for drinks.
By: cb on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 1:33 pm
Everyone is going to tell you no but you will go anyway. I dont get it, do you WANT to meet someone good? Or do you just like to have good blog stories? If you truly want to meet a good guy, HELL NO dont go, it is lame to even think about it. He wont send you a pic… He wont take you to dinner. yuck lame.
By: Chrissy on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 1:42 pm
Chrissy came in with the tough love….
I say no.
By: Randi on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 1:55 pm
Definitely NO!
By: Heather on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 1:57 pm
I say go for it.
Kathryn and I will take care of Tucker while the police look for your body. I’m also calling dibs on your DVD collection.
By: Paul on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 2:20 pm
Oh.Hells.NO.
By: Lurker on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 3:26 pm
Uhm, lurker here so for what its worth- Nay! My gawd, are you crazy? The guy is so a psycho. Beware!
By: Jon on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 4:19 pm
I see my future husband has so far been the only “yay,” and all for a chance to dog sit and acquire more DVDs…back off ladies and gents, he’s all mine.
That being said, while I wouldn’t go as far to say he could be a serial killer (but you’d hate to make that oversight), neutral ground is never a bad thing. And if he agrees to meet you somewhere public, maybe you could actually pick the location. No Greek or Thai food, breakfast or coffee!
By: Kathryn on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 5:26 pm
Sweet Jaaaysus Dude
You’ve only just met this guy, only seen pictures of his wing-wang, skips right through the dinner invite in a public setting to an invitation over to his place, and you’re asking us our opinion if you should take him up on it? To the hells no you shouldn’t go.
The internet is a lovely place with some mighty fine people on it, and more than it’s fair share of crazies. Nothing wrong with meeting the crazies, Dirk, but at least have enough common to do it in a public setting.
Life without Dirk around to make me laugh isn’t a good thought. Do not go!!!! Still shaking my head at the fact you’d even consider this.
By: meows mix on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 5:27 pm
NAY.
Simply too dangerous. I’m not even going to make a joke about this one, dude.
By: Mad Queen Bess on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 6:18 pm
Trust your intuition and take a pass. Stick to your guns about the steakhouse.
By: Roxcy on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 7:15 pm
This lurker says “no”.
By: Jerry on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 7:37 pm
I say thee NAY! (And Asa says he NAY too.)
By: josh on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 8:30 pm
“It does what it’s told…”
Oh hells no is right. Public places for at least 3 dates is my motto.
By: BC on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 8:36 pm
Nope – no way, psycho!
By: BW on Tuesday, March 11, 2008
at 10:35 pm
Just another lurker voting no!
By: em on Wednesday, March 12, 2008
at 1:28 am
I’ve never seen so many comments before. But I vote a resounding HELL NO. Let me repeat. HELL NO.
By: Maddog on Wednesday, March 12, 2008
at 1:29 am
NOT to be a contrarian, but I think you should agree to go. He will give you an address. You will scope it out and, assuming any normal address location at all, you will not be in any high risk situation (really, people, there are ONLY so many fava bean afficionado’s in the world).
Once you have met, he should offer you a refreshment and conversation.
NOW – you get to be in control. If he is a hotty in other than the crotchel zone – and you want to take a shot at a relationship – give him a very clear message that you are interested and he should contact you for a fun date that will be a real date. Then thank him for a pleasant evening and leave – a warm hug without a peck (or a pecker) would be a good ending.
HOWEVER – if he is bed material and not date material – go for it.
AND – if neither bed or life – after a few minutes, say “this isn’t working on any level – thanks for your time” and leave.
You can be in control – choose to be.
For one of many, we are eager to see what (and how) you do.
By: Kirk Atlanta on Wednesday, March 12, 2008
at 1:56 am
nay to meeting first at his house, yay for meeting in public first.
By: tornwordo on Wednesday, March 12, 2008
at 4:20 am
“You will scope it out and, assuming any normal address location at all, you will not be in any high risk situation (really, people, there are ONLY so many fava bean afficionado’s in the world).”
Right. Because John Wayne Gacy? Lived in a creepy, falling down shack with heads on pikes outside. Uh, not really. Had a very nice little house and threw popular block parties.
Yeah, there’s only so many people who are into fava beans. . . but there are plenty of other people who are into things not quite as nasty, but still damaging to a body. (And I don’t mean in the fun way, involving a safety word.)
By: Lorelie on Wednesday, March 12, 2008
at 6:31 am
Another lurker votes Nay!
By: Chrise on Wednesday, March 12, 2008
at 8:50 am
No!
By: Lela on Wednesday, March 12, 2008
at 10:27 am
OK, so it’s lunchtime on Wednesday—what did you do, Dirk? My dad always told me not to go to the guy’s house EVAH……but then that was my dad and I was his daughter. But, as a friend….one you’ve never met….don’t go to this guy’s house!
BTW, I hope you’re lovin’ Joshuah now, cuz he’s my favorite!
By: catrina on Wednesday, March 12, 2008
at 11:47 am
Nay. He may be perfectly fine, but if he is, he’ll meet you in public. If he’s not, then you’re not missing anything…except your skin, which I’m sure will make a lovely housecoat for him.
By: gregory on Wednesday, March 12, 2008
at 11:57 am
Gotta agree, hot li’l bunny. If the only thing he’s got to recommend for himself is his dangler — I’d say, you getta get a better dating service. Like me. I’ll date you AND service you.
By: minotaur on Wednesday, March 12, 2008
at 3:39 pm
If its just sex you want, go. If not, then no.
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at 10:31 am
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